Who Keeps You Accountable? Your Training Partner might be holding you back

Disciplined training will gain the best and quickest results, but sometimes our discipline falters. Having a training partner or someone to keep you accountable helps to maintain the discipline when we can’t on our own. Who, or what, keeps you accountable? Are they holding you back?

Are They A Training or Chatting Partner?

Training with friends is great, and I strongly recommend it! You just need to make sure you’re training with the right friends. There’s no doubt that gym, workouts and exercise can be social events, but too often the social aspects take over the fitness goals.

Have you ever been to the gym and seen those two friends, having a casual walk on the treadmill while watching TV and chatting? Sound familiar?

I’m not judging anyone, but are they exercising or socialising? Are they short of breath, or even sweating? Maybe it’s their rest day, or a warm-up or cool-down walk… or maybe it’s just a chit-chat about what’s on the TV screen in front of them?

At least in this scenario, they’re gaining the health benefits of walking instead of gaining weight from sitting on the couch but focus should be on sweating, not chatting.

If you’re going to do a workout, do some actual work! There’s plenty of time to socialise afterwards while you’re collapsed on the ground, trying to regain your breath.

If you’re training with friends, talk to each other about what your goals are:

  1. “I did 20 pushups last time, so I want to do 25 this time”
  2. “I really want to run a 6 minute kilometre”
  3. “I want push myself so hard that my legs won’t let me walk in the morning”

“I really want to achieve <my goal> and I want you, my friend, to help me achieve it!”

Tell your friend what you want to achieve, and how they can help you achieve it. If they’re the right training partner for you, then they’ll be more than happy to help you.

Chat less, sweat more, achieve more!

Your Overcaring Family

If your mum is anything like mine, then you know what their goal in life is: feeding you! Birthday dinners, family catch ups or the good ol’ Sunday Roast — my favourite! Your mum cares about you, and wants to take care of you.

“Just one more slice of cake, it won’t hurt you!”

How many times have you heard that?

No, that third slice of cake probably won’t hurt you, but it definitely won’t get you any closer to your goal either.

When you decide you have a goal, whether it’s to lose weight, improve your health, or just get ready bikini body ready for the beach, then tell your family.

“Mum, you know I love your triple layer chocolate mud cake but…”

Sit down with your family, and have ‘the talk’. You never know, maybe your decision to improve your health might inspire your family as well. Bring them down to training with you.

Personal Trainer, The Harbinger of Pain

You’ve heard it, probably from me, “Come on, keep pushing! Only twenty seconds to go! Good work, keep pushing, just thirty seconds more!” We personal trainers have a warped sense of time, and we’ll push you to your limits, and just a little bit more.

We know how tired you are, but we know you’ve got that extra 10% of effort hidden away. Just below the surface, and you may not even know you have that one last effort in you, but we do.

The main job of your personal trainer is to train you. It’s simple, isn’t it? They analyse your goals, determine the best, quickest and safest way to reach those goals, and they train you. It doesn’t stop there though. When training you, they should be teaching and monitoring your technique, measuring your results, and motivating you.

It may not feel like it at the time, when every muscle in your body is burning and you secretly want to yell at us, but we really do want the absolute best for you! If you haven’t secretly (or openly) yelled “no more!” at your trainer, then maybe they’re not pushing you hard enough? Or maybe, you have the patience of a saint! If it’s the latter, come speak to me, and I’ll see how far we can push your patience levels.

You May Be Your Worst Enemy

The human mind is a complex thing, and does an amazing job of protecting us. In the past, our brain helped us escape Wooly Mammoths, Sabre Toothed Tigers and even scarier; drop-bears! Thankfully, we no longer have to worry about being attacked by (most of) these animals, but our brain can play tricks on us too, protecting us from… ourselves.

I can’t train today because…

  • I really need to do the housework
  • It’s too cold
  • My leg is still sore from the weekend

Because… I’m lazy and need an excuse?

But is it an excuse if there’s a valid reason to skip training? Other than the potential for your sore leg being a sign of an injury, the other reasons are just excuses, reframed as “reasons”.

It’s much easier to focus on the short term benefits than the long term. We choose the path that will reap immediate rewards, rather than putting in the hard work for the long term goal.

Motivation can only take you so far, discipline is required for the long haul. It’s easy to train when you’re highly motivated, but on those lazy days, it takes discipline to give yourself a kick in the butt and exercise.

Don’t be your own enemy, pay attention to your reasons/excuses and decide, how bad do you want it?

The Scary Scales

Scales lie. Technically, they tell the truth… but we can interpret the truth incorrectly.

A friend of mine has recently decided to do something about his weight. He was overweight, and living an unhealthy lifestyle, but ready for a change. He began eating healthy, reduce his alcohol intake and started exercising regularly.

And he got results, serious results. Within the first 6 weeks he managed to lose 8kg, but then things stopped. Checking the scales each week, he saw a regular decrease in weight from 130kg to 126kg, then 124kg, 122kg, 122kg, 123kg… progress appeared to have stopped.

I know for a fact that he was still making serious progress but he was shocked that he had stopped losing weight, and even managed to gain 1kg! Numbers aren’t everything. Combining good nutrition and disciplined exercise meant he had started to burn bodyfat while increasing his lean mass — muscle!

The ultimate goal for any “weight loss” program isn’t only about losing weight, but also gaining muscle.

He might have stopped losing weight for the moment, but it doesn’t mean he isn’t still burning body fat. The increase in muscle mass might throw off the scales in the short term, but the long benefits are plentiful:

  • Increased muscle mass increases your resting metabolic rate
  • An increase in strength will allow you to move faster, lift heavier, and exercise harder
  • The increased muscle mass will give your body a healthy shape

Women get scared when they hear “increased muscle”, thinking that they might end up looking like the hulk if they get “too strong”.

It’s not true, and it’s definitely not something to worry about. Don’t worry what those scales are telling you, and focus on your performance. If you’re stronger, faster and fitter than you were last month, then you’re on the right track!

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